Assalamu alaykum in the name of Allah most gracious most merciful, Do you know about husband and wife relationship in Islam? Here is the right palace to know about husband and wife relationship in Islam.
A lot of people have a lot to learn because what happens is life is full of learning. if we don’t learn we will not be able to lead a life that is fruitful. All of us as we grow and whilst we are young and still growing.
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Husband and Wife relationship in Islam
We have a dream and the dream is one day I will get married and one day I will do this. if it’s a female she would say one day I will marry such-and-such a prince of mine and the male will say well one day I will have the princess and that’s what will happen and this is the type of person. We need to know that this entire thought needs to be harnessed and we need to think very carefully what type of a person we want to marry the reason is that decision will determine the rest of our lives. whether we will lead a life of happiness or a life of doom the decisions of marriage are by far the most important decisions that one could make within one’s social circle and even for the rest of life.
So it is important for us to know what the Prophet Muhammad may peace be upon him teaches us regarding making this choice. Firstly he says that a woman can be married for some reasons some of these reasons are she can either be married for her wealth some people look at wealthy family let me get married and Sometimes they look at the status in society. Good lineage or high status in society prestigious people let me get married sometimes they look at the looks this person is very good-looking very pretty girl. a very handsome man let me get married and there is something that people look at which is religion character and conduct.
When someone comes to you with a proposal and you are happy with their level of character and conduct as well as a religion then do not disagree or deny them let them get married to your daughter. if you don’t allow them there may be lots of fitna and facade what is fitna and facade on earth fitna meaning corruption problems, disruptions, difficulties, calamities. So many things can happen. So this is the teaching of Muhammad may peace be upon him we need not reject proposals without a reason.
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Some people will reject it’s only because they’ve had a problem with someone solely because they had one raw deal where they were wrong sometimes and their daughter has to suffer the son has to suffer they lose out on good proposals as we all know today to get a good person to marry is like hunting for a needle in a haystack. A lot of people it may be just that and it is very risky because sometimes we’ve picked up part of the hay and we think it’s a needle and in the same way. We think we have a good man or a good wife and it only turns out. later on that, they’re not as good as we thought. So it’s important for us once we’ve made the decision each one of us should be the main aim in our lives. should be to please our maker to please our Creator we need to be constantly conscious of that.
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If that is the case we will be able to lead a happy life if my main aim is to please my Creator my religion teaches me to be the best person to be the best husband to be the best wife to be good in character a good in conduct to get up early in the morning to read late at night to make sure that I’ve prayed to make sure that I have fulfilled my duties unto Him as well as my duties unto the rest of my family members all that is part and parcel of my religion and fulfilling what the Almighty has instructed me to fulfill. For this reason when you look at someone who has character conduct they speak well they know how to come across when they want to say something they choose the best way of coming across.
You will lead a much happier life than marrying someone who’s very abrupt no character no conduct no religion and so on we’ve had cases where you have people who pick up their wives in nightclubs it is said that is exactly where they leave them we ask a lot to protect us what that means is they picked someone up in the nightclub. because of how good their legs looked or for example how nice their face was or how beautiful the hair was the day they find someone with better legs Najibullah or better hair or better looks they will drop this one and go for the next. so that was not the proper way of looking for a wife whereas we needed to be introduced to someone with utmost dignity and respect why is it that Islam teaches us the introduction so that we can protect the female from being blackmailed from the gullibility that she might be falling into and from being abused and find a person behind the backs of their parents they develop a link with someone and they continue this person is blinded by love.
All we know love is blind Islam says the same thing the hadith the Prophet (SW) says love can not only blind but it can make deafened them at the same time which means you will not understand anything because it’s love so they will come to you with their gifts with their beautiful words. They only show what they want to show you and in the process what happens we tend to think this is them we have not yet lived with them. we don’t even know their family we don’t know what their family thinks of them we don’t know what the friends think of them and this is why the introduction was wrong in the sense that we haven’t yet understood the whole person and we are so much in love with them.
We cannot wait to get married so we think let’s get married we put pressure on our parents and everything say it was to happen and we ended up to marry the second day if not the first we are already complaining this is not the same person. I married this is not the same person look at him he’s vulgar no he is the same person but he didn’t show you. What he didn’t want you to see prior to getting married because he needed you in his picture now that you are in his picture. it’s over you are doomed may Allah protect us nobody is doomed.
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We always have another chance but let’s not repeat the mistakes and let’s not continue in that way, for this reason, we are taught the introduction should happen with respect and when it happens with respect the elders need to know about it, someone. Some male needs to know about it and they need to approve of it in the sense that they should guide us along before you fall head-over-heels in love with someone need to know their character and conduct and need to have moved through a category where you could have said no without it hurting you and without you feeling oh I’ve lost so much this person is my enemy because they are telling me, no and that person is my enemy because they are telling me no we don’t want that type of behavior and for that reason we protect the female especially from the beginning. Sometimes we know the world is preaching freedoms and so sometimes the word freedom is used to drop us into the dumps and we don’t realize that we don’t understand. it sometimes the word freedom is used in actual fact to enslave us. We don’t realize it and sometimes it is used correctly where we are, to be honest with you to be practicing our freedoms.
So we need to know what decision we make for the type of person we marry once you marry the right person ask yourself. in fact prior to marriage is this person fit to be the mother of my children is this person fit to be a father to the children. I expect to have will they be a role model. if that is the case the way they will speak to me will be with respect they will consider me they will dignify. whatever there will be held in high esteem if they need to correct me they will do it in all love they will do it with such goodness and kindness. when they walk with me they will not disgrace me in public there will be people who will try to look at things how I look at things and at the same time as I said when they need to correct me they will correct me in a way that will be palatable and acceptable. it will be digested quite easily what we need to realize also is husband and wife many times the devil tries to bring them apart rip them to pieces for nothing for no reason.
Sometimes it’s because we become impatient with one another we live with one another. This is why the Prophet peace is upon him says if you want to know the best from amongst you who is best to his wife and his family members. the same applies to a female she who is best to her husband and family members if your husband all your wife or your family members can bear witness that you are a very good person then indeed you are good because you live with them 24/7. what’s the point of your neighbors and workmates and others thinking what a gorgeous man what a lovely person he is that’s because you go to work you smile because you’re being paid to smile you work so nicely you know you’re so kind to your bosses and everyone because you’re being paid to do that you know some wives wouldn’t mind paying their husbands to see that smile because we don’t smile sometimes we come into the home we throw everything onto one side. We sit in front of the television with our newspapers and we were spoken to and we just say no yes until they might even ask us are you a fool and you say no. this is the type of behavior we have sometimes we don’t even know what they’re saying yet someone phones. you from work full concentration on the phone call what is this is this, not a double standard relation did we not understand that we are working in order to enjoy our life our married life we are not married in order to enjoy our working life. people have turned the tables and this is why if your work is coming and interfering with your marriage you’d rather leave your work than to end your marriage.
We need to know this because if we are going to leave our marriages in order to make our work we will end up leaving every marriage. we are in no one wants to marry a person who’s married to his job we ask the Almighty to grant us understanding the point I’m raising is some people prioritize wrongly and they end up giving priority to that which is not supposed to be right at the top over and above the things which are supposed to be right at the top and for this reason children are neglected wives are neglected sometimes husbands are neglected. the way we speak to them is far worse than the way we speak to others sometimes as I said at work we can speak so calm so kind to everyone but come home and suddenly we have to face everybody’s helter-skelter everybody is running around no one wants to sit with us we don’t sit with anyone when we are on the table.
We have a frown and we look at everyone as the harshest of people and yet at work, even the girl who brought the tea to us thank you very much oh it was so sweet of you couldn’t you say that to your own wife thank you very much it was so sweet of you sometimes. we have these examples can go on and on but the point being raised is we need to make an effort to try and build the relation. it’s like a little plant you have the seed the more you water it the better it will grow sometimes you add a little bit of fertilizer and you find it will grow better the fruit from it will become or will be of a far more superior quality so you need to know in the same way. you’re ready to put fertilizer there sometimes a little Rose can do a lot a lot of positives within the home and yet we haven’t ever done that there are people sometimes who will buy chocolates and gifts for others who are not even related to them and yet for their own family members they’ve never even bought a single rose nor have they bought a little gift nor have they had a surprise for them.
How to solve misunderstanding between husband and wife
When you have the relation breaking especially today in the age of television in the age of the internet where people are watching others live sometimes even on the box and they see how you know happy others might be they tend wrongly to compare it is wrong to compare. it is in fact almost detrimental to compare your marriage to those who might appear to you to be happier than you but people are doing it and when they do this at least we need to know let us try our best to develop such a solid relationship that they can discuss things with us openly in a respectful manner look this is where you’re making a mistake. This is where I think you need correction and don’t feel bad about it take it some men think that we don’t want to be corrected and the same applies to some females and this is husband and wife we are supposed to be the closest and yet we can’t even communicate. if that is the case we’re wrong we then have husbands who threaten and continue to threaten what do they say no if you tell me this I’m going to send you home what the relation do we expect it she has a right to highlight it and you need to think about it this is the closest person to you telling you that I think you need attention and if they are really thinking that then you probably do need that attention or you need to engage them in discussion and convince them while you don’t need that but you don’t just dish out commands I don’t even have time I don’t have time to talk to you I don’t have time come.
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The weekends we’re sitting with our friends well why did you get married you have a wife you have children these are the first order of your friends this is the most intimate circle. if you are not prepared to spend time with them then how do you expect the marriage to work. we’ve said quite a bit for today and this is all food for thought obviously whatever we’ve said applies to us firstly and then everyone else and the idea is to coincident is one and all about this beautiful relation between husband and wife this is only a tip of the iceberg may we have another opportunity sometime to go a little bit further.